When All Hope Seems Lost

Coptic-Arabic manuscript, Ayyubid period, AD 1249-50. Images depict Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemene, the kiss of Judas, the arrest of Christ, his appearance before Caiaphas, Peter's denial at cockcrow, Christ before Pilate, and the baptism of Jesus in the Jordan River.
This week we follow Joseph into prison. If we’re headed to prison with him, let’s recap how we got here. We know that Joseph was born into a family that was trying to follow God’s will but at the same time was highly dysfunctional. Joseph had eleven other brothers, born to four different women. His own mother had passed away. His father Jacob showed favoritism to Joseph because Jacob learned that from his father Isaac.

Joseph has a dream that God will make him ruler, and Joseph’s family will bow down to him. Joseph’s brothers are less than enthused by this dream, and they throw him in a well, expecting to kill him. Now, when I was growing up, my brother and sister and I fought, but we never threw any of us in a well. At least not that I remember. At least not for very long. And we never sold one of us to the Egyptians which is what Joseph’s brother decided to do, rather than kill him.

When Joseph was at the bottom of the well, things looked pretty hopeless. No food, no water, and the only people around that could get him out of the well were the same ones that threw him into the well in the first place. Joseph knew God’s plan for him held great things in store for him, but how were they possibly going to come true if Joseph is dying at the bottom of a well? I think we can learn from Joseph about how to handle serious setbacks in our life and how we should respond. I came up with four ways, but I’m not going to tell them to you yet because the lesson would be over and it’s too early for lunch.

Instead of killing Joseph, his brother decided to sell him to the caravan to Egypt. I was always amazed at that caravan to Egypt that “happened” to come by, right at that moment, while Joseph was at the bottom of the well. How many months had that caravan been traveling to reach that exact spot at that time? From Joseph’s perspective at the bottom of the well, things must have looked bleak. Things must have looked hopeless. But God was in control all along. He knew Joseph would be in a well that day, so months earlier he sent a caravan to pick him up and take him to Egypt to fulfill His plan.

And for a while, it certainly looked like Joseph was living the dream. Head servant to Potiphar, officer to the Pharaoh himself, Joseph is given great responsibilities and freedoms because of his faithfulness and trustfulness. But then, Joseph is a victim of seduction and false accusations. Potiphar’s wife attempts to seduce Joseph, but Joseph denounces the seduction as a wicked sin. Potiphar’s wife isn’t named in the scripture; she’s one of the unnamed people in the bible, like Lot’s wife or David’s mother or the Magi. Scholars believe her name was Zulieka, married to Ptahwer, an officer of Pharoah Ahmenemhet III of the Twelfth Dynasty of Egypt. In Dante’s Divine Comedy, Zulieka’s shade is observed by Dante in the Eight Circle of Hell. She doesn’t speak, but Dante is told the Eight Circle of Hell is reserved for perjurers that violate the ninth Commandment not to bear false witness and she will spend all of eternity with a burning fever. And this is the kind of thing that sidetracks me when I’m studying and I need to get back to Joseph. Joseph flees from the sin of temptation but he leaves some article of clothing behind, and because of this evidence, Potiphar has Joseph thrown into prison.

I think sometimes we tend to think that if we follow God’s will, we will only see God’s blessings. Or perhaps we think that if we’re going through some challenge, we’re in some dark well or we’re in prison to our sin that God has forgotten us. Joseph had been in a tough position, what would be sexual harassment today, a daily temptation. If he resists Potiphar’s wife, she’ll be mad, and if he gives in, Potiphar will be mad. God will be offended. Clearly, Joseph had no choice that was without serious consequences. Joseph chose to do the right thing and was thrown into prison for it. And again, where was God? Would God send the equivalent of another caravan to rescue Joseph? Let’s read Genesis 39:21 and see.

But while Joseph was there in the prison, the LORD was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden. So the warden put Joseph in charge of all those held in the prison, and he was made responsible for all that was done there. The warden paid no attention to anything under Joseph’s care, because the LORD was with Joseph and gave him success in whatever he did.

I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest that being the best darn prisoner in all of Egypt is not what Joseph expected when he decided to follow God’s will. But when all hope is lost, when we’re in a well or we’re in some prison and we don’t know how we’re going to get out, we can learn the first way we can respond to serious setbacks in our life. How many ways are we going to study? Four, that’s good, just checking to see if you were paying attention.)

I. We can trust God

We can trust God, that He has a plan and He will see His plan done. While Joseph was there in the prison, the Lord was with him. We might be tempted to ask, well, if the Lord was with him, why was he in prison in the first place?

Well, the Lord doesn’t seem to work like that; there is a place for suffering in the lives of Christians. Paul tells us in Romans 5:3-5 that suffering will produce perseverance, character and hope. James 1:2-4 tells us that the trials we face gives us spiritual maturity. Faith in an all-benevolent, gift-giving God is easy; to increase our faith, God grants us trials so we not only believe in Him, but we learn to rely on Him. God is interested in our circumstances, but He is far, far more interested in our response to our circumstances.

Joseph was in a place of hopelessness, a life imprisonment. The only he had going for him was the fact that Potiphar didn’t execute him, the customary punishment for adultery. Potiphar must have believed him, but it didn’t keep him out of prison. Joseph has no family to comfort him; it was his family’s actions that setup this circumstance in the first place. He’s a slave, in a foreign land. Joseph had one thing and one thing only. Scripture says the Lord was with Joseph.

Sometimes, when things look bleak to us, this is the only thing that can sustain us. The Lord is with us, even when we can’t see it. Family members hospitalized, troubled marriages, abuse, traumatic accidents, lost jobs.

Q: What does it mean to you to trust God? How does the promise of God’s presence build your trust in Him?

We know Joseph’s future. Joseph only has his knowledge of what the Lord has told him in a dream. If Joseph knew what we knew, having faith in prison for a crime he didn’t commit would be easy. Joseph didn’t have such knowledge, but he did have faith that God is true. And that’s the same thing we have. We have God’s word that He is with us, no matter what. You’ve heard it said that if it is written once in the bible, it’s important, but if it’s written twice, better sit up and pay attention? Look at Deuteronomy 31:6 –

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

And Joshua 1:5 –

No one will be able to stand up against you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you; I will never leave you nor forsake you.

And Hebrews 13:5 –

…because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

And Matthew 28:20, Jesus says,

“And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

God is with us. Emmanuel. God is with us. What’s our first step to dealing with troubles in our lives? Trust in God, for He is with us.

II. We can serve others

Let’s read Genesis 40:1-8 –

Some time later, the cupbearer and the baker of the king of Egypt offended their master, the king of Egypt. Pharaoh was angry with his two officials, the chief cupbearer and the chief baker, and put them in custody in the house of the captain of the guard, in the same prison where Joseph was confined. The captain of the guard assigned them to Joseph, and he attended them.

After they had been in custody for some time, each of the two men—the cupbearer and the baker of the king of Egypt, who were being held in prison—had a dream the same night, and each dream had a meaning of its own.

When Joseph came to them the next morning, he saw that they were dejected. So he asked Pharaoh’s officials who were in custody with him in his master’s house, “Why are your faces so sad today?”

“We both had dreams,” they answered, “but there is no one to interpret them.”

Then Joseph said to them, “Do not interpretations belong to God? Tell me your dreams.”

Joseph could have been wallowing in self-pity. He had a lot to wallow about. He could have used his situation as an excuse; “I can’t help you know, can’t you see I’m in prison? Sheesh!” But instead, Joseph looked to serve others. In verse 4, the term “served them” or “attended them” or “ministered to them” could mean he performed menial service, but Joseph’s care goes further than that. It was Joseph that noticed their faces were dejected. Joseph took the time to care about them, inquire about their welfare, and taking the time to listen to their stories.

And Joseph credited all the dream interpretation to God. Just like Joseph, even when we’re troubled, we can still find a way to minister to others. Joseph used his faith to reach out to others in their need, just as we can serve others in the Lord’s name as a way to comfort others.

Helping others is a sure fire way to take your mind off your own troubles. If you can do nothing else for somebody else, just take the time to listen to them.

One of the reasons we suffer is so that we may understand others who suffer. People afflicted with cancer relate better to a cancer survivor. Recovering alcoholics attend AA meetings to be with other people with the same struggles. A large reason Diane relates so well to the elderly is because many of the aches and pains they have, Diane identifies with them because she’s had them, too.

Nobody understood that better than Jesus. Jesus suffered, died and was buried for our sins. Do you think Jesus can’t identify with your pain? The humanity of Jesus gave him direct access to the worst pain that can be inflicted on a man, and His anguish troubled Him so much His sweat was like blood. Jesus knows suffering. 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 –

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.

Q: What kind of things can we do today that makes a difference in somebody else’s life?

III. We can seek help

So Joseph offers to interpret their dreams, and the chief cupbearer goes first. Genesis 40:9-15 –

So the chief cupbearer told Joseph his dream. He said to him, “In my dream I saw a vine in front of me, and on the vine were three branches. As soon as it budded, it blossomed, and its clusters ripened into grapes. Pharaoh’s cup was in my hand, and I took the grapes, squeezed them into Pharaoh’s cup and put the cup in his hand.”

“This is what it means,” Joseph said to him. “The three branches are three days. Within three days Pharaoh will lift up your head and restore you to your position, and you will put Pharaoh’s cup in his hand, just as you used to do when you were his cupbearer. But when all goes well with you, remember me and show me kindness; mention me to Pharaoh and get me out of this prison. For I was forcibly carried off from the land of the Hebrews, and even here I have done nothing to deserve being put in a dungeon.”

Just giving comfort to others helps us, consider that getting comfort from others blesses them, too. Joseph saw an opportunity for somebody to help him, and he wasn’t afraid to ask. Joseph’s ordeal had him in prison for the rest of his lift, and the prophecy of this dream coming true gave Joseph hope for the future. He was not afraid to ask for help. “Mention me to Pharoah and get me out of this prison.” Sometimes there is a solution to our problem that’s available if we just ask for it.

The cupbearer received good news from Joseph’s dream interpretation. The baker now asked for Joseph to interpret his dream. Genesis 40:16-19 –

When the chief baker saw that Joseph had given a favorable interpretation, he said to Joseph, “I too had a dream: On my head were three baskets of bread. In the top basket were all kinds of baked goods for Pharaoh, but the birds were eating them out of the basket on my head.”

“This is what it means,” Joseph said. “The three baskets are three days. Within three days Pharaoh will lift off your head and hang you on a tree. And the birds will eat away your flesh.”

Well. Sucks to be the baker, I guess. Actually, there is a lesson here. Joseph approached the cupbearer for help because he knew the cupbearer would eventually be in a position to help him. It’s important to use discernment when seeking help. Seek those who can provide Godly wisdom and comfort or who may be in a position to help. And don’t be a baker in Pharaoh’s prison.

Q: How did God use others to encourage Joseph? How has God used others to encourage and help you?

IV. We can be patient

And lastly, we can be patient and wait on God whose timing is perfect. Genesis 40:20-23 –

Now the third day was Pharaoh’s birthday, and he gave a feast for all his officials. He lifted up the heads of the chief cupbearer and the chief baker in the presence of his officials: He restored the chief cupbearer to his position, so that he once again put the cup into Pharaoh’s hand, but he hanged the chief baker, just as Joseph had said to them in his interpretation.

The chief cupbearer, however, did not remember Joseph; he forgot him.

Patience is hard; patience is a virtue. Patience takes practice. There are many places we wait in life. We wait in traffic. We wait for the microwave to finish. We wait for the right job to come along. We wait for the right spouse to come along. We even wait on our spouse to become the spouse God intends, just like our spouse waits on us. We’re waiting for children to grow up, we’re waiting for children to move out, we’re waiting, waiting, waiting.

Have you ever considered that we’re sometimes just waiting in God’s waiting room? We see a situation in our lives or the lives of someone close to us, and we wonder why God doesn’t fix it now. Surely it is God’s will for this thing to happen. Why is He taking His time?

God has great plans for Joseph. Plans to prosper him and not to harm him, plans to give him hope and a future. But for now, Joseph is in God’s waiting room. And sometimes, we are, too. God has a plan for each and every one of us. He wants us to love Him, He wants us to love one another. He wants us to grow spiritually in a closer relationship with Him. And sometimes He uses time to accomplish His will.

Are you waiting on God for something? For somebody to come to faith, for somebody’s heart to soften, for somebody to apologize, for the pain to stop, for the health to improve? I understand, waiting is hard. God understands waiting is hard, but sometimes it takes time for God to work His will, not because God is slow, but because people are slow to respond. As Joseph is getting to depend on the Lord and serve the Lord, he’s waiting in prison. His hope for the chief cupbearer to tell Pharaoh at the birthday party about Joseph’s innocence did not happen. The chief cupbearer forgot. But God remembered, and when His timing was right, we’ll see Joseph delivered. But he has two more years to wait on the Lord.

Be patient. Whatever you are waiting on is a small part of the picture. God sees the whole picture in the fullness of time. When God acts, it may look like good timing, or bad timing, or no timing at all, but its God’s perfect timing. Keep Romans 8:28 in mind,

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

God will act when He knows the time is right. In the meantime, we continue to grow in Him by serving and studying and being obedient and praying. Timothy must have asked Paul about the persecutions and the injustice he saw, and Paul told him in 2 Timothy 3:14 to just continue.

Q: Why do you think the cupbearer forgot Joseph? Why is it so hard to wait when facing a hopeless situation?

Q: Which one of these four steps is the easiest to do? Which one is the hardest?

These four steps take practice. Pray and lean on Him when you’re going through difficult times. Our human nature often leads us to respond incorrectly and in ways that are ultimately destructive. Joseph could have responded with anger and bitterness. He could have said ugly things about Potiphar’s wife. He could have been mad at Potiphar. He could have harbored resentment towards his brothers. Joseph’s life so far includes abuse, abandonment, hatred, slavery, false witness, and now prison, all while Joseph tried to do the right thing. Can you picture Joseph years later, a 90 year man, eaten up with bitterness about how he was treated? Anger and bitterness are not the solution.

Or Joseph could have turned his back on God and taken the situation into his own hands. Joseph could have gossiped about Potiphar’s wife, you know how many slaves she sleeps with, she’s such a tramp. And that Potiphar, what an idiot for believing her. Sometimes we want to take charge of the situation and change it, only to make it worse. Some people see trouble and turn their back on God, not understanding the pain and the waiting could possibly be from a loving God. And they seek other sources of comfort in alcohol, drugs, infidelity, materialism, whatever. Others see the same pain and waiting and understand God’s perfect timing as a time of spiritual growth and develop a deep confidence in waiting on the Lord.

In an Expositional commentary to Genesis, I read this story told by Billy Graham. Billy Graham told a story of a friend that went through the Great Depression who lost his job, all his savings, then his wife and then his home. But he was a believer in Jesus Christ and held onto his faith even through he fought with depression about his circumstances. One day he stopped to watch some workmen doing stonework on a huge church. One man out front was chiseling a piece of stone into a triangle. Curious, he asked what the triangle was for.

See that little opening on the top of the spire? I’m chiseling this down here so it’ll fit up there. And his friend left with grateful tears; God was doing the same to him, shaping him for heaven by chiseling him through his ordeals.

So trust in God. Continue to serve, and to ask for help, and be patient and wait on God’s perfect timing.

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27 thoughts on “When All Hope Seems Lost

  1. you? Who labour in presenting God’s word clearly to you? Those elders who teach your bible study … do you respect them? Your pastor who studies the word of God to clearly present it to you, do you give him honour? Chasing the Wind presentsWhen All Hope Seems Lostposted at Chasing the Wind. —God has a plan for us, and He knows our suffering. Trust in Him, and be patient! A study of Joseph from Genesis 40. James DeLelys asks, “Who is Love?” in WORDS » Articles

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  2. Jennifer, I constantly have to remind myself of that truth. We know Joseph went on to do great things, but for now, doing them in the prison is God’s will. We can be assured that our trials are refining us, too.

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  3. I googled ‘When all hope seems lost God’ and this was the first post at the top of the search.
    Thank you! I needed to read this today. I so happy I found your site.

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  4. Iv googled’loosing all hope’ because that’s how Iv been feeling.Im facing a storm in all directions, going through an ugly devorce (8 yrs of marriage), my business of four months is not breaking even/not clear where its headed,my 6 month old second hand car has problems and needs an amount of money that equals my salary, Im also in arrears by the same amount.My 6year old daughter’s school fees are in arrears for four months and I can not afford a nanny for her whilst I work arkward (6am to 10pm)shifts and we are living alone.

    After having read this…I know that God is not only refining me but is preparing me for bigger things and He will see me through it all.Im now getting ready for all these trials to be turned into a testimony, glory be to God!

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  5. Bongiwe, hang in there. God does not forget; God has a plan for you.

    What is His plan? Sometimes it is clear as daylight; other times, murky and opaque. But you and I are not omniscient like God, and we cannot expect to know all He knows.

    So in the meantime, as Paul told Timothy, “Continue.” Be faithful to Him.

    I pray for you today.

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  6. I am so glad I came across this, I googled what to do when all hope is lost, and here I am, I have been doing some things I shouldn’t have, and I read this and cried, I havent prayed or been to church in a while, and instead of sinning to rid of my troubles, all I needed was gods love, because no matter what happens, he will never leave me, and for now on I want have a strong relationship with my father.

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  7. God is indeed faithful and His timing is perfect. Wait on the Lord and take heart because he who has promised is faithful. Joy comes in the morning but troubles don’t last always, we know God is preparing us for something greater and we have to wait patiently on Him.

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  8. Lan, hang in there, and I’ll say prayer for you. Our God is indeed an awesome God, and when you turn toward Him again, the parable of the prodigal son shows that our Father will come running toward us. That is love.

    Sheila, thank you for your insight. Paul told us that whatever we are experiencing in this life is “light and momentary troubles” compared to the joy that awaits us.

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  9. I buried a seventeen month old girl, I tried for six years to get. I watched them put that ink casket in that hole in the cemetery and I know then and there that God, wherever he was, did not give damn about me. I turned away from the nonsensical teaching that forced into me as a child, I grew up. I realized that if God is truly Omnipotent, omnipresent, omniscient, then he must be a very cruel God. See I also Googled in “when all hope is lost”, but I don’t buy what you are selling, not this time.

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    • There’a no sales pitch. I think that your googling means you still haven’t found peace.

      I’m terribly sorry for your loss. I know people in our church’s Grief Share have found a way to share their faith through their trials. I pray you find what you are seeking.

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  10. What would you do when all hope is lost? When you have no license, no money, no job. When you are and going to be for years a burden on the one family member you have left. Is it better to be hated and resented; depressed and lonely for 3 more years? I would rather end this. The only thing that stops me is not knowing what is on the other side. I’m not concerned with hell but I am worried about not being able to move on to the next plane.. To be stuck here as I was when I was alive. Useless angry and alone. I believe in some higher power, or the connectivity of life that makes that force real. I would hate to find out it is as unforgiving as some would say and damn me to some eternal purgatory until my soul is no longer. Either way I guess I’m stuck here, passing some test of pain and humility until I am old and completely broken and utterly alone. Only then, when my inner fire has been completely sapped will ‘God’ let me go.

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  11. I came here just like those before me, all, I mean all hope is lost. I’m 54, raised my children as a single parent, standing by now watching them struggle to survive and I can’t help them because I can’t help myself. I’ve lost so much in this life, homes, apartments, cars etc., etc., relationships, etc., etc., jobs., etc., etc., my confidence and finally my peace. I know I am among the throngs of millions that live this experience…an uneasiness rests up me, loneliness I live with everyday and I am facing yet another eviction with little options left my greatest fear has come upon me homelessness with no where to turn. I’ve seen the madness homelessness forces people to endure and it scares me to know that’s where my life is headed. I’ve tried everything, no services available for me, I’m in the middle of some crazy place in life, too old for most things, and not old enough for other things. I wrestle with my faith and this condition I’m living in, depression is like an old enemy sitting on the wall mocking me. Screaming do it, do it, what are you waiting on! what more evidence do you need, your life is over!

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    • Pay no attention to the enemy, J. The enemy has no power; the God of Abraham is eternal and powerful.

      I pray for you, J. I pray for you today that the God who promises to provide all we need provides what you need, and you find joy in peace in what He provides.

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  12. What do you do when you realize that God has stopped or won’t listen to you? What do you do when you know that God hates you and creating you was a major mistake?

    I am sure God doesn’t care if I take my life, why would he when I was a mistake that he created?

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  13. I think the first step is realizing that what you’re feeling is normal, but it’s not coming from God. God is the creator and giver of life, and He loves you. God is love.

    It may feel like God stops listening sometimes. If you’re a believer, sometimes it seems God is using this silence to see where your faith is. Do you trust Him when you can’t feel Him?

    And if you’re not a true follower of Jesus, sometimes God’s silence is His method of steering you to a path that leads you to Him.

    Put your faith entirely in Him. If you do, then you know that an all powerful God doesn’t make mistakes. He made you with a plan and a purpose for you.

    Jeremiah 29:11. For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

    I care, and so do others. Come back and post again and I will share about what I know about our God.

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  14. I am going through so much, and it’s overwhelming , I’m 19 and dealing with issues I know I need to face as an adult, my youth pastor pointed out Joseph to me and here it was again more in dept and just thank you for writing this. I randomly just came to this looking up a song from the preachers kid. This helped me a lot

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  15. I am going through a lot. I am newly married and my first child was diagnosed of hydrocephalus and went untreated for months due to people’s advice. This has affected everything about him but I still have faith and hope in God for a great future for him. After reading this piece, my hope has come alive again

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    • God bless you, tolugbusi. I;m glad you posted; sometimes I need to re-read my own posts; this was encouraging to me today, and I thank the Holy Spirit who was with me that day. I pray the Holy Spirit is with you today giving you peace and comfort.

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  16. I very much needed to read this post today. I know that it’s 2014 and you wrote this in 2008, but it “spoke” to me loud and clear. My husband of 19 years and I are going through serious marital problems…divorce has been brought to the table several times. I’ve read a plethora of inspirational, motivational, reconstructive materials over the past two years since his heart attack and subsequent midlife crisis. I am trying desperately to keep our marriage going and our family intact, however, my reactions to his actions often cause more trouble. I am trying to let God be in control and not make things worse. I needed to be reminded that God is the Creator and the Plan Holder. Thank you for writing your post all those years ago; I’m sure it was God who led me to it today.

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  17. Thank you. I’m going through such a hard time right now in my life – work and marriage – that I’ve had 2 really rough weeks. The whole day I’ve spent it angry, bitter, and resenting my life. I don’t think I’ve desired to be anybody else more than today. Your words of encouragement and God’s word have penetrated my heart and has given me some hope to keep moving forward. I know it’ll get better, it’s just hard when you’re going through the fire. God bless

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    • Amen to that. Sometimes I confess I cannot seem to understand God’s plan – why *am* I going through this? Especially when it seem things are going the opposite of what I think God would do.

      But I am not God, am I? If I truly trust God, then God is in control of the mess, too. I’m sure Joseph had no idea why he was at the bottom of a well due to the mistreatment from his family, but I know God was there and God had a plan. I will trust that God has a plan for me.

      God bless you, be strong.

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  18. Michael, thank you very this write up .Haven read through the message , my hope , faith and trust in God has been rekindled. Its actually made me believed that all hopes are not lost in my inspire of my present predicaments, since I lost my banking job in 2012. It has not been easy for me and my family, but nevertheless, I still believe , God will answer my prayers at approprate time, i will continue to wait upone the time with patience. Thanks.

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